The F-word
January 7th, 2007
No… not THAT F-word… the one that’s far worse. Way worse. Fear. So this post about fear evolved after reading Jackie’s BEAUTIFUL post called New Beginnings (BTW… it’s THE Best New Year’s Post Ever). It was as if Jackie wrote it for me and put into words the beehive of jumbled thoughts swirling around in my head. Yes… a light bulb moment for me!
I’ve already taken the steps last year to put aside fear and take some plunges. Some steps resulted in success (you’ll have to wait until summer to find out! Hint, hint… at your newsstand!), and some not. I had some steps that ended at a dead end (rejection), and you know what… it was NO big deal! The fear of rejection is by FAR worse then the actual rejection and I honestly can’t remember what was even rejected.
Sometimes I have fear when I blog my “Sew & Tell” that I’m bragging. I get that little voice in my head (and she sounds just like Courtney Love BTW) who says, “It sounds like you’re bragging”. Yet I tell myself over and over how much I enjoy other bloggers who share… why be so stubborn with my sharing? The Courtney Love voice nags me over on the other shoulder, “Do it, do it… people want to see your creations like you want to see their creations”. What if nobody shared? How awful that would be and how dull the Crafty Blogging world would be! I love blogging and have made many new friends blogging. I don’t want fear to be a part of something I love so much and I have taken a vow to kill the fear. RIP fear. You are dead to me.
So my message is to you my friends, you know who you are. You’re the ones who fear of having a blog, or even leaving comments. Yes… it’s not only ok to comment of people’s blogs… it’s welcomed! And if the Courtney Love voice is saying to you that you have nothing to write about or you don’t have time or no one’s going to read it… well she’s full of crap and she’s got a hypodermic needle filled with liquid fear waiting to inject you with it. Just say no.
Thank you for the new mantra Jackie and Happy New Beginnings to you all!
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Farting around with needle & thread and then blogging about it.
You are the sweetest!! I’m so with you on the fear thing! Dead to me too! I completely understand the little voice too - I feel like that sometimes, like I wonder if people will think I’m bragging, but it really is all about sharing what you like to do and make and appreciating what others are doing and making. I love seeing what everyone is making on their blogs and find it so inspiring - I get so many great ideas from all the wonderful things I see on blogs. I sometimes don’t share because of the FEAR, but since that’s dead to me now…
I like how supportive we can all be for each other and that’s what’s important at the end of the day!!
January 8th, 2007Aha! Are you going to have a quilt published? Or an article in a quilt magazine? Of course we’ll never know unless you tell us your real name! :-)
I was troubled by the little voice for years - I think age helped me get over it. Just in the last one or two years I’ve been saying “I’m old enough to do just what I want without caring what anyone else is going to think of me”. I don’t pretend any more - I’m just who I am. If people don’t like me that way they I figure it’s their loss.
Fear to me is something else - what I have to conquer every time I get on an airplane. I can do it when I have to, but I hate it. I’d rather drive whenever possible. And you’ll never see my skydiving or bungie jumping - I don’t need to do that to prove my worth to myself. I can accept my fear of heights and loss of control just fine LOL!
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January 8th, 2007By the way, I’d love to come visit your guild one of these days or meet somewhere for lunch and shopping. We should be able to manage that at least. You are in Astoria if I remember correctly, is that right? Visiting guild will probably have to wait until I retire but surely we could get together some Saturday.
January 8th, 2007I know what you mean about the bragging. Something women are taught not to do. Most of the time I’m just astounded that something actually turns out! I think what holds me back is not so much fear is LAZINESS. I just can’t make myself commit to anything.
January 8th, 2007Girl, PLEASE! YOU, BRAG?? Never. Just sharing. :) You are so sweet and good hearted, and we who know you know you’re INSPIRING us. We all get so many great ideas from each other, questions answered, happy thoughts and just friendship. Thank you for sharing yourself with all of us. Love ya and miss you terribly! Can’t wait til this summer.
January 8th, 2007Great post and I am still on the fence and you know what I mean
January 8th, 2007R
I don’t think sharing is at all the same thing as bragging. It’s really wonderful the way you can look at all these different craft blogs to see what people are making. That’s what makes it seem like a community.
Besides, the other great thing about blogging is that it’s YOUR space to do with as you please, to share what you want, to say what you feel like saying and if anyone objects they can leave.
FEAR BE GONE!
January 8th, 2007Well, Miss Zombie, I’m proud of you for taking a chance out there and I look forward to seeing somethingof yours at a newsstand near me soon! Good for you!
January 9th, 2007Thank you Momma Apple! I’m proud of you too! :o)
January 9th, 2007